Netflix's The Goop Lab wants to give you an orgasm
Gwyneth Paltrow and her Goop team sit down with a sexual education expert to talk about taboos and female pleasure.
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Warning: This episode contains nudity and adult content.
The Goop team and the experts they interviewed talk at length about why female sexuality has historically been a taboo topic, and how that has led many women to avoid exploring their bodies and asking sexual partners for what they want. As a result, they don't experience orgasms.
Goop has been under fire for years for recommending and selling all sorts of questionable treatments like vaginal steaming and expensive products like the jade egg to improve sexual health. So, I fully expected this episode to focus on more of the same. What I got instead was an important lesson in anatomy, body positivity and pleasure that should have been included in my high school sex education class.
I should note that this episode focuses on cisgender women and doesn't discuss any challenges non-binary or transgender people might encounter to achieve an orgasm.
The Goop Lab episode 3 recap: The Pleasure is Ours
In the 35-minute episode, Paltrow and Elise Loehnen, chief content officer of Goop, sit down at the Goop offices with 90-year-old Betty Dodson, a pioneering sex educator and coach (who looks no older than 60 and wears an outfit I would gladly wear at 31), and Dodson's creative partner Carlin Ross.
The four start by discussing the difference between the vulva and vagina, a distinction many women, including Paltrow, are unaware of. They chat about Dodson's workshops, where she coaches women on how to orgasm, something she's been teaching for decades.
In those workshops, women get naked, use mirrors to examine themselves and try Dodson's methods to "get off," which involves rocking the pelvis forward and backward while contracting the pelvic floor muscles. Later in the episode, we see Ross use this method to experience an orgasm on camera. While the scene isn't graphic, it does feel a little weird to watch someone do something so personal.
My favorite part of the episode is a series of photos of different vulvas to show how much they vary from person to person. These photographs make the point that we rarely see female genitalia in the media, yet full-frontal male nudity is common in TV shows and movies.
Even worse, Dodson calls out, is that many people only see the naked female body in porn, where female performers often (but not always) wax their pubic hair, bleach their skin and undergo plastic surgery to change the look of their vulvas. And if women only ever see vulvas in porn that don't look like their own, it's no wonder they worry their bodies are "bad" or "wrong," she explains.
The episode also takes viewers to a workshop led by sexuality coach and doula Isabella Frappier for a few female Goop employees. Frappier boosts the women's confidence with a sensual photoshoot (all are fully clothed) and takes them through a few exercises designed to make them more comfortable asking for what they want with a sex partner, instead of faking an orgasm.
Data show that heterosexual women experience an orgasm from sex with a partner less often than heterosexual men, homosexual men, bisexual men, homosexual women and bisexual women. All those factors, the episode argues, contribute to having unfulfilling sex lives.
What can you learn from this episode?
The episode does a good job of stressing why women need to become more comfortable and familiar with their bodies. But advice on how to change that is limited.
Dodson's main advice is to first use a mirror to get familiar with your vulva and identify the many parts of it. Second, figure out what kind of stimulation feels good and work on communicating that to your partner. While the first step is easy for anyone, the episode doesn't offer enough details on how to accomplish the second.
The most we get is a description of Dodson's method for achieving an orgasm, but there aren't explicit instructions. For that, you can check out her website Dodson and Ross (that link is NSFW).
In the end, The Pleasure is Ours offers a blunt and body-positive perspective on female pleasure and calls out all the various barriers that cisgender women encounter in trying to achieve that. While the episode doesn't provide a lot of advice to overcome the barriers to female pleasure, it does present female nudity and sexual gratification in an honest way we rarely see in the media. I'd go as far to say that it's required viewing for any sexually active adult, regardless of gender. Everyone can learn something, whether you have a vulva or not.
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