If you open it from a shortcut, right click on the shortcut (or the icon), choose properties, and choose how to run it: normal, minimized or maximized. Then OK and it should work.
If you open it by clicking on an associated file (such as running Word by clicking on a document, or opening a new window in IE by clicking on a link) it's a different story and, I think, even different for each program involved. Then you'd better tell what programs you mean.
Hope this helps.
Kees
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