Why are you still using WMP9?
BTW, I haven't used WMP9 in years so I don't have a clue as to why you're suffering from this.
What I would suggest is again switch the affected settings in WMP9, shut it down, then restart. If the targeted setting are changed to what you want, then that's a good first sign. Next, shut down your XP box then restart to see if the Windows shutdown process is saving your session information correctly. If after starting WMP9 and the settings are as you want them to be you should be golden. If not, then I'd say you have a problem with your reinstall of WMP9 and with stray settings data that your system won't allow you to overwrite. Whether it's in a WMP-specific support file or somewhere in the Windows registry, you'll have to consult a Windows expert on that.
I had used Windows Media Player 9 for several years with Windows XP Professional Service Pack 1 & 3. I can't recall if I ever used it with SP2 until recently. I had always kept ?Tools ? Options ? Media Library ? Rename and rearrange music using media information? unchecked with ?only add missing information? selected. I had no problem with editing and retaining Title, Artist, Album, and Release Date entries.
I reinstalled Windows Media Player 9 a few days ago (as mentioned in recent post) because the program had stopped retrieving data from the internet. This may or may not have been connected with upgrading to Windows XP Professional Service Pack 2 several months ago during the period when the data retrieval stopped. After the reinstallation of WMP9 onto SP2 from the original Gateway WXP Pro SP1 CD, WMP9 started retrieving data from the internet again.
The next day I spent several hours editing Title, Artist, Album, and Release Date entries for a compilation audio CD set. After I reinserted the CD?s to check for tracks that didn?t get ripped, all of the edits I had made had been replaced with AMG data even though the computer was not connected to the internet and the ?Tools ? Options ? Media Library ? Rename and rearrange music using media information? was still unchecked and ?only add missing information? was selected as before the WMP9 reinstallation.
Does anyone have similar experience and/or ideas how to get WMP9 to stop overwriting changes when the program seems like it is already set to prevent that from happening?
Is there another setting that is not so obvious?
Am I at risk of having all changes in the media library overwritten now if the computer goes online?

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