Windows Live Messenger is part of the Live Essential pack. So, when you go to remove it, you should look for Live Essentials in the Add/Remove programs list.
Once you find that, hit uninstall and the uninstaller will ask you which program of the pack you want to uninstall.
Cheers,
Ron
How do I disable Windows Live Messinging? I selected it when installing Windows7 and now I can not stand how long it takes to load at startup delaying my use of the computer. I never use it and should not have included it when I installed Windows Live Mail. I searched the Microsoft User Groups and Micrsoft Windows7 site with no luck. I tried deleting the file but it won't let me because it is running. Of course it is since it loads before I can do anything. HELP.

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