You are both correct. A higher density generally increases the overall toughness of a material. The form of its crystalline structure also affects the toughness. But, regardless of material, the biggest difference in any kind of collision is difference between mass. Another is angle of impact.
If two opposing objects collide with a relative difference in speed, one will transfer energy to another. The closer the mass between the two, the more energy is transferred. If you roll a bowling ball at another bowling ball of the same mass, all the energy is transferred if the impact is direct with no angle. The first bowling ball will stop and the ball that was struck will begin moving at the same speed you sent the first one. But when that bowling ball hits a pin, for example, the bowling ball will keep moving even though it moved the pin. That's because the difference between masses does not allow for a complete transfer on inertia.
When you apply that theory to cars, it makes sense. The worst case scenario for any car is to have a head on collision with another car of equal or greater mass. The other car will absorb all of your car's energy and transfer it's opposing inertia to yours. If it's heavier, you will move backwards after the impact.
But as the other person who replied to your post said, there are many other factors that go into car safety. Some include difference between heights of frame and chassis, or design of crumple zones, the angle of impact, and so on.
But take that data into the subject of this forum. The term "plastic car" does not mean plastic frame. It means that where heaveier metals would be used for things like door siding, the hood, the trunk, etc., the manufacturer would use lightweight plastics. Keep in mind that the current siding on any car, metal, fiberglass, or other composite, provides no protection in an impact. The frame, engine, and crumple zones do all the energy absorbtion.
The only reduction that the plastics would accomplish is reduction in weight. Therefore, increasing fuel efficiency. It would have nothing to do with safety because the siding on all cars currently being produced only keep the weather out. But plastics are easier to cut through than metal. It would become easier to remove somebody who is trapped in the car. Most of the siding would crack or pop off in a major impact, leaving the rescue crews with less metal to deal with when somebody is stuck in their car.
I hope this sheds some light on the subject. Most people in this forum that are against 'plastic cars' think that their metal siding somehow protects them. That's simply not true. I do believe that the frames could be replaced with a lightweight composite. But it would be stupid, for safety's sake, to replace critical frame portions with plastic.
As far as the SUV and 'old tank' theories go. Most cars on the road now are smaller and lighter. The only person that the tanks are safe for are the drivers and passengers of those vehicles. They are a danger to everyone else. The only reason they are safe for the occupants is because they obliterate the smaller cars that they will, inevitably, run into. People in SUVs, in general, have a false sense of security and pay less attention to the road. Typically, they also have the attitude of 'get outta my way', thinking that they own the road. That reminds me of a schoolyard bully, not a sophisticated, upper class citizen. A certain advertisement comes to mind. It was a poster showing a hummer. It had a picture of a particularly intimidating hum-v and stated "ALWAYS HAVE THE RIGHT OF WAY". That sickens me.
Being in the New London area, we see this all the time. The people here think that if your vehicle is more expensive/bigger than another, you have the right of way. They completely ignore all common sense as well as traffic laws. I can't wait until I get medically retired from the Navy so I can move away from this God-forsaken place.