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Tracking internet history

by tikki / May 10, 2005 4:26 AM PDT

Hi all--

Suspicious girlfriend here, trying to track my boyfriend's internet history. I have good reason. I've found tons of porn files on his computer that he has said he will delete. He lies, I find it elsewhere. I have also found piles of cds that he backed up his porn onto. I've also found one porn site that he submitted his own profile to while we have been dating. And worse, I've also found porn that he made with an ex but for some reason kept it although he's engaged to me now. To sum it all up, he's on to me and knows I'm watching the browser history and is deleting sites he goes to from the internet history. My question: Where else can I look? I have checked out the temporary internet files also, and have read about index.dat files and cookies??? but am not too savvy about this stuff. The matter of my staying with him or not is another issue, believe me, I've heard lots of advice. For now I want to see if he's lying but am mainly concerned with any more profiles he may have out there. Thanks for your help!!

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Re: index.dat viewer
by Kees Bakker / May 10, 2005 6:46 AM PDT will guide you to a program to look in inside index.dat. That's more difficult to clear than cookies, history and temporary internet files.

Cookies, by the way, are small files, that you can find in a separate folder somewhere in Windows or in My Documents and Settings, conveniently called cookies. They've names like reviews.cnet.txt and www.kelkoo.txt and (depending on what has been visited) www.nudeteenagers.txt, possibly preceded by a user name like

If your fianc
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Tikki, Why Check?
by Grif Thomas Forum moderator / May 10, 2005 8:36 AM PDT

Finding any and all accessed sites and files on a computer can be complicated. Kees gave you a good tool. There are also "Recent" folders or "My Recent Documents" folders within the user's profile on Windows XP. In addition, lots of tracks are left in the registry and a program called Spybot Search and Destroy can find them for you. But you mentioned that this was HIS computer...

But in your heart, you've already stated what you know. Your words to us were: "He lies". It's now your decision whether to "live with it" (lying and porn) or "not to live with it".

Hope this helps.


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Which shows that ...
by Kees Bakker / May 11, 2005 4:54 AM PDT
In reply to: Tikki, Why Check?

not all computer hobbyists, experts and gurus (not sure to which category you belong, but somewhere near the top) are nerds, but some of them at least are ordinary human people, with an eye to the human side of problems, and a nice personal touch and do care about more than technology. A great answer.


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tikki, You Know All You Need to Know
by anad / May 11, 2005 1:38 AM PDT

More tracking will not solve your problem. If you plan to continue this relationship you may find counseling helpful.
Internet porn is only successful because there is a market for it. There are tons of porn sites and there are tons of customers. There are also counselors who are qualified to help people like you. They can help your friend if he is willing to participate.
I hope you can get this behind you. It is not something one wants to live with.


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re internet tracking
by ariss / May 13, 2005 1:43 AM PDT

tikki ...give the dude a break ,dont search his files ...he just forgot the porn there or left it for the next guy who buys his pc

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Answer to tracking history
by dojo98 / May 12, 2005 6:59 PM PDT

All relationships are based on trust, you obviously do not trust him thats why you are spying on himand trying to find all thats bad in him, if he were raking through your diary or hadbag how would you feel?. Men are different from women. Men look at porn sites, magazines and other women, this is a fact, it does not mean that they want to be with them, its just the hormones or testestorone, its in the make of the male species. Build on what you have, the good points of your relationship, don't ghip it away until you have nothing.
I hope I've given a liitle advise and not tried to belittle your quetion or ideals

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No Offense Folks
by crazeebob2000 / May 12, 2005 7:46 PM PDT

But this sounds like it should be in "Dear Abbie" column.

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by akareload / May 12, 2005 10:06 PM PDT
In reply to: No Offense Folks

I fully agree.
For that matter I dont't care where he gets his appetite as long as he eats at home.

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Point taken....
by tikki / May 13, 2005 3:44 AM PDT

I see what you are saying but I still don't think it's acceptable to just excuse it, IF that particular man knows how much it hurts his girlfriend. We've had our big fight and I've heard the "I won't do it again" speech. All I'm trying to do here is determine if he really meant it or if he's lying. He says it's no big deal but if he can't stop then we both know he has a problem.

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After the honeymoon...
by AussiePete / May 12, 2005 11:21 PM PDT will only get worse, so stop fooling yourself and face up to facts - HE HAS A PROBLEM so dont make them yours - getting an appetite else where is one thing but a compulsion is another- - there are plenty of other fish in the sea - believe me you only get one chance at picking the "MR Right" so dont blow it.

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Apparently he's a liar
by cicada49 / May 13, 2005 2:11 AM PDT

So.... You want to spend the rest of your life checking up on this dude...right? Dump him!

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Grow up
by marty56 / May 13, 2005 2:35 AM PDT

This girl is obviously paranoid that a man looking at porn on a computer is going to run around on her. This is not generally the case. She needs counseling before she gets help as well as he does if his pron problem is as bad as she says it is. I've been married for 23 years and my wife has no problem chatting with other women on cam programs or looking at porn on the net because she knows I love her and I stay home. THIS SOUNDS LIKE A CASE OF YOU DON'T TRUST HIM FROM THE GIT GO HUN!!

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It was just a simple question folks.....
by tikki / May 13, 2005 3:37 AM PDT
In reply to: Grow up

Obviously a few people out there failed to notice my statement that my decision whether or not to put up with this is totally separate from my original question. I did not post my question to invite advice from strangers regarding my personal life. I have sought help from friends and also a professional counselor through my work. I know people have very different views about this issue. I, myself, happen to react negatively to porn that I find my fiance looking at when I know that it is an ex-girlfriend. I also react VERY negatively to profiles of himself that he posts asking if there are ''***** honeys'' out there looking for ''something on the side''. I won't go into this anymore but you all get my point. Looking at porn doesn't make one a cheater, but asking for it might.

I was merely looking for TECHNICAL advice. Thank you to those of you who were kind enough to recognize that. And for the record, this is OUR computer (for those of you who don't agree with my spying on his computer history......). While I agree that maybe I am being paranoid, he hasn't given me much reason to trust him. Again, I don't need any more comments that I'm doing the wrong thing and shouldn't be with someone I don't trust. I'm working that part out with him.

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You're doing OK
by MarkFlax Forum moderator / May 13, 2005 10:13 PM PDT

You're OK Tikki,

This is obviously something which concerns you and like you say, you have asked for technical advice about it.

You're always going to get a multitude of answers to this sort of question because of the morals involved and it's up to you to separate out the wheat from the chaff. You've had some good advice from Kees, Grif and Gail, (glb).

Good luck. I hope things work out for you.


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I have the answer for you
by jlove27 / May 8, 2008 12:51 PM PDT

Search google for internet history trackers. I have used track4win analysis, pc pandora( which this one seemed great but when i went to buy it it didn't work), to name a few that i remember. There are a ton and they have free trial versions. They show you every page that was surfed even if erased and email addresses and passwords. Some of them are aren't very good (don't show all the sites)just erase it and try another. Track for win was good and you can extend the trail version a few times, just keep pulling up the server and hit evaluate again. And if the program isn't hidden and show up under programs in the start menu, just right click on the name an rename it so your bf can't find it.

I became aditted them. I found my boyfriend looking at Craigslists girls all the time for hours. Either though he knew I could somehow know what he was looking at he wouldn't stop. Until, I looked at phone records and matched phone numbers to the tomes that he was surfing and caught him calling escorts. They were hang up calls though, they only showed up as one minute on the bill. If he is logging on to dating services you will be able to see his passwords. and what he saying to these.

But since everyone is giving advice, I would still look if I were you, but they are right. I learned alot about my bf but we are still together because we love each other and he stays at home. My bf seems to have some weird need for attention from girls and porn, but he has not cheated on me and after everything was out in the open (I actually moved out for a weekend and he met one of these internet dating girls who ended up being a bald amazon women)and I stopped being so jealous and nosy, he stopped looking at them.
Hope this reply is not too long are worded wrong. I have be drinking, but I ran across this an couldn't beleive noone told you about internet history trackers.

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Well put!
by swwing17 / May 15, 2005 5:22 PM PDT
In reply to: Grow up

Most couples that I know, especially the ones in the most rock-solid long-lasting relationships, also share healthy, active sex-lives that include...yes...watching PORNOGRAPHY together. Maybe she could suggest wathcing a LITTLE of it WITH him, rather than letting him watch LOTS of it ALONE?

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by swwing17 / May 15, 2005 5:26 PM PDT
In reply to: Well put!

The "Well Put!" reply was to Marty 56"s "Grow Up" reply.

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Tracking MSN messenger
by AussiePete / May 14, 2005 6:48 AM PDT

goto tools/options/messages then in message history tick "auto keep a copy of my conversations" the folder you specify you can go to in explorer and open the logs with NotePad, WordPad or word.

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And So It Goes . . .
by ALonelyHeart / May 17, 2005 4:09 PM PDT

Bless your heart . . . Been there, but got out while I still had half a brain! Don't be played a fool! I understand, it's not about the porn, but about the betrayal, and the deceit. If it's no big deal, then why are lies necessary? That makes it a bigger deal!

Even IF he stops doing stuff that hurts you, you'll NEVER believe it to be true. You know better, and don't need me or anyone else telling you what you already know. Trust yourself and your feelings. Don't spend time trying to prove yourself right to justify leaving him. Be like Nike and Just Do It!

Oh, but if you must, and I know you think you have to. Spend about 100$ more or less, to get every keystroke saved to a file for your viewing later by using a password and / or to have it sent to your email. One way or another, this really won't solve the problem if he's a liar. He might not admit the lies even with your proof (if you choose to reveal it) and would no doubt turn it around and resent you for spying on him . . .

Try this place -

I wish you well. Take care of yourself.

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Advice on effective loggers or trackers
by idesofmarch83 / October 8, 2008 4:25 PM PDT
In reply to: And So It Goes . . .

Sorry to add onto a (REALLY) old post, but I am having the same problem as Tikki, although I'm not sure if my question belongs in this particular forum or another since it's with regards to Playstation 3. Since buying a PS3 my husband no longer uses our computer to browse the internet. Nowadays he browses only on said PS3 and is pretty good about deleting each session. However he has yet to realize that there is also a way to delete the predictive text history...several times now I've found some suspicious logs which leads me to believe that he may be cheating. I know that he avidly peruses through porn sites, which really doesn't bother me; however, I am concerned about whether or not he ever crosses the line from simply "looking" to wanting to participate (ie. posting on adult sex finder sites). I hate that my marriage would have to come to such snooping, but I think I deserve to know if my fears do turn out to be warranted. And if he isn't cheating, all the better and my mind will finally be at ease. Research has led me to some pretty informative programs such as keyloggers, remote activity logger, etc, but they all seem to be geared only for PCs. I would GREATLY appreciate any info on logging/tracking hardware or software that can be installed on a PS3 without my husband knowing. Thanks in advance

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Sounds like a good relationship
by TheManInDboX / May 9, 2008 12:49 AM PDT

I am not sure what the law is on this, but i am pretty sure it is illegal to do what you are asking to do, without his permission.... Aside from that, if you dont trust him, then why marry him? "not to get to personal and all"
But if you need to get into internet history,
You will either need to get his password and username or you will need to more or less hack his account...

For legal reasons i will not go into how to do that...

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Rob, Are You Aware You Responded To A 3 YEAR Old Thread??
by Grif Thomas Forum moderator / May 9, 2008 4:40 AM PDT

...and the person you've responded to hasn't been here since 2005.. I doubt they will respond back..

Hope this helps.


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Bad with dates! lol

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