I don't know how well the online play is, I don't really go in for that sort of thing personally.
I will say that I wouldn't really use a game console as a DVD player as well unless you had no other choice. The PS3's player is going to be pretty basic and no-frills. But stand alone blu-ray players will be coming down in price in the not too distant future, and will quickly become much cheaper than a PS3. However, only the PS3 will play PS3 games, so once the laser starts to go on the optical drive...
It's impossible to say what game development will be like. Sony is planning quite a few releases for next year, but how many of those will be any good is anyone's guess. Most will probably be very pretty, but be a complete disaster in terms of gameplay, just like with the last gen consoles.
As for the resale value of a 360... It all depends on the demand for used units. One store could have a waiting list a mile long for used 360s, and trade in values would be high. A store down the street might be having problems moving the used units it has already, so trade in values would be low. Ebay is kind of the same thing. If there are a lot of people selling 360s, but not many people looking, it may not sell for much, or at all. If you have few units being sold, and a lot of people looking, it's a different story. It's all basic supply and demand from high school economics.
I'm asking here because discussions on this topic on traditional gaming websites (gamespot etc.) turn into shouting matches bewteen xbox and sony fans.
I currently have an xbox 360 premium and with the recent PS3 price drop, I am considering trading in/selling my 360 and buying PS3, or just buying a PS3 and playing both. I like the PS3' included blu-ray player (seems like blu-ray is winning and here to stay), web-browser and free online play. A couple questions:
1. How good is the online play? I've read that xbox live is regarded as a superioir service with a very active community. I enjoy xbox live but don't play it a ton (but still enjoy using it), and if the PS network was similar in quality I'd like to avoid the xbox live fees.
2. How good is the blu-ray player/ other media features? Part of the reason I want the PS3 is to have a full service media center for movies, pictures, music etc. However, if the quality of the Blu-ray player is sub-par, or will be vastly outdated in the next few years the purchase does not seem worth it.
3. Will the PS3 have good game development in the future?
4. How much trade in value would the 360 have at a store? How much could it be sold for on ebay?
Thanks a ton. Please add if there are othings things you feel should be addressed.

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