I've yet to find any software that meets your need of no-cloud, easy to use and works across the OS's like that. For example, the usual Carbonite fails your cloud test plus has issues when backing up and restore across XP to Vista because the directories where things are stored changed.
Maybe the old methods work here. You get a pair of external hard disks and copy what you want to one, put it in the bank vault and then do that again on the second unit and exhange, repeat that as often as it will make you feel safe.
There is no known software I know of today to meet your requirements.
Bob
Hello All,
I have WinXP desktop and my wife has Vista laptop. She will be moving to another city for job reasons and we need to keep each other's data synced, in case disaster happens on any machine, the data is safe.
I am totally clueless about networking (and so is my wife). We need simple and very safe solution to get our task done.
P.S. - All the files include very personal information, like our financial, insurance and similar documents. Some of the files are as large as 4GB (DVD ISOs of family photos and videos)
I googled a bit and I have few options like use of ActiveSync and few other programs but I prefer computer to computer connection rather than anything sitting in the cloud.
Many thanks for the suggestions.

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