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Speaking of respect for human life

Jul 25, 2004 10:11PM PDT

This article just made me sick to my stomach:

When One Is Enough

Now I'm 34. My boyfriend, Peter, and I have been together three years. I'm old enough to presume that I wasn't going to have an easy time becoming pregnant. I was tired of being on the pill, because it made me moody. Before I went off it, Peter and I talked about what would happen if I became pregnant, and we both agreed that we would have the child.

I found out I was having triplets when I went to my obstetrician. ...

My immediate response was, I cannot have triplets. I was not married; I lived in a five-story walk-up in the East Village; I worked freelance; and I would have to go on bed rest in March. I lecture at colleges, and my biggest months are March and April. I would have to give up my main income for the rest of the year. There was a part of me that was sure I could work around that. But it was a matter of, Do I want to?

I looked at Peter and asked the doctor: ''Is it possible to get rid of one of them? Or two of them?'' The obstetrician wasn't an expert in selective reduction, but she knew that with a shot of potassium chloride you could eliminate one or more.

Having felt physically fine up to this point, I got on the subway afterward, and all of a sudden, I felt ill. I didn't want to eat anything. What I was going through seemed like a very unnatural experience. On the subway, Peter asked, ''Shouldn't we consider having triplets?'' And I had this adverse reaction: ''This is why they say it's the woman's choice, because you think I could just carry triplets. That's easy for you to say, but I'd have to give up my life.'' Not only would I have to be on bed rest at 20 weeks, I wouldn't be able to fly after 15. I was already at eight weeks. When I found out about the triplets, I felt like: It's not the back of a pickup at 16, but now I'm going to have to move to Staten Island. I'll never leave my house because I'll have to care for these children. I'll have to start shopping only at Costco and buying big jars of mayonnaise. Even in my moments of thinking about having three, I don't think that deep down I was ever considering it.


I found out about this reading a Neil Cavuto editorial whose sentiments are echoed by Barbara Simpson. I share their feelings on this. Abortion should not be for matters of convenience. The whole concept of selective reduction makes me very uneasy even under the "best" circumstances -- e.g. there is high risk of lifelong problems for all the babies in a multiple birth such as the Mccaughey septuplets -- but when done with such a callous disregard for anything but one's selfish wants it really churns my stomach Sad This woman should have her tubes tied!

Evie Happy

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Selective reduction question?
Jul 25, 2004 10:22PM PDT

I wonder if they could abort the mom and keep the triplets....

Just a thought...

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I'm going to be violently ill now....
Jul 25, 2004 10:45PM PDT

...and then I'll pray that this woman can somehow get over her utterly arrogant selfishness.

"Selective reduction"? Why do I get this mental image of Dr. Mengele standing beside the incoming boxcars at Auschwitz? Why do I imagine him rationalizing away his decision to commit immediate mass murder (as opposed to the slow motion mass murder that routinely occurred at that dreadful place and the others like it) by believing that he was merely "selectively reducing" the number of unfortunates that they'd have to feed?

We used to try, convict and execute those who did this as genocidal criminals; now, we just call it "choice". Maybe we ought to admit that our moral compass is broken...