Sadly, my best source on the conflict, and a wonderful musician named Steve Starchev, Serbian father, Slovenian mother, is no longer alive to dispute what you say. He pointed out regularly that much Croat and Kossovar mistreatment went unremarked, but he also noted that because the Serbians controlled the Army, they were much better equipped and organized. But first and foremost, they were all Slavs, every last one of them. And so are the Macedonians who live in Serbia, Bosnia and northern Greece. The divisions arise from the Turkish conquest and the clinging of parts of the populace to their old religions, but all of them are Slavs from the same group of tribes which migrated into the mountains of the Balkans from the north.
"The term Balkans is generally used to describe areas that remained under Turkish rule after 1699, namely: Bulgaria, Serbia (exceptfor Vojvodina), Macedonia, Thrace, Albania, Valahia, Moldavia, Epirus, Bosnia and Herzegovina, Montenegro (except for the Boka Bay and Budva), central Greece and the Peloponnese."
Sarajevo, a pocket of Serbs and Croats previously living well together, but surrounded by Serb territory on the hills and mountains surrounding Sarajevo. Ratko Mladic was the general in command and ordered the shelling of the whole of Sarajevo, with a view to its destruction. Mladic hated Serbs who lived in peace with their neighbours and considered them as much the enemy as the Croats
Srbrenica, a Serb town in Kosovo which was about 50/50 Serb and Kosovar in Bosnia (not Serbia, unless you accept the concept of Greater Serbia expounded by Mladic and Karadzic and the rest which basically said "The rest of you get out!), again a place which got along reasonably well and without serious conflict until the Kosovars moved for independence from Bosnia because they were Muslim, and the Serbs in Serbia and Bosnia and Croatia, were Greek Orthodox. Now, some Muslims from various countries did attempt to join the fight, but "the Muslim Albanian immigrants, many having entered Kosovo illegally" is a gross exaggeration, but not quite an outright falsehood, In response to Serbian aggression, some Albanians did sneak across the border to fight, but owing to Albania's poverty, they were damned few.
The starvation camps most frequently covered were the Serb ones holding Croats. The mass graves were predominantly Croats killed by Serbs, but there were some graves of Serbs killed by Croats or Kosovars. The rape camps were Serb inventions. Some retaliation occurred after these atrocities were publicized.
To repeat, all the participants were Slavs. Slovenia and Croatia were Roman Catholic, the Kosovars were Muslim forcibly converted by the Ottoman Turks in the 16th Century, as was the population of Albania.
Modern Greek had to be re-constructed, because nobody spoke Greek when Greece was liberated in the 19th Century, they spoke Turkish. Modern Greek contains a great deal of Turkish, and is far from the original Classical Greek of the New Testament and the Greek poets. As it is, the melon sellers who go through the streets of Athens call out the Turkish word for melon, not the Greek one, because that's what the population understand in colloquial speech.
Your comparisons regarding the provocation for the Wars are wrong. Serbia considered itself the guardian and the most powerful community in Yugoslavia. As soon as elements began to split off, they reacted to attempt to force them back into the fold. It is impossible to figure out who fired first, and who was the most in the wrong.
What can be done is to catch the most prominent political and military criminals identified by the UN, and European peace keeping nations. Half a dozen Croats have been tried by the Court in the Hague, but that seems to have passed you by.
Do you have a preferred group of Slavs, James, or do you weep for them all, as I do. I attend an Orthodox church once a year for Steve, and light a candle for him.