I suspect the headset is incompatible w/ Android 4.0.3. They may be working on a patch to enable connectivity. I guarantee that Samsung would advise you do the same thing.
I have a Philips Bluetooth stereo headset SHB9001 which works perfect with other devices, but my new Galaxy Note GT-N7000 cannot find it. Android 4.0.3. Please help.
Eddy

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