mtway,
I'm not aware of an HDMI splitter, and even if such a product was available on the market, it'd be difficult to say for sure if it would work or not.
The connection directly to the TV is essential (also for 3D Blu-Ray Players), and the recommendation I would have is to run the DirecTV directly to the TV with HDMI, and then run the optical from the DirecTV to the receiver with optical cable.
--HDTech
I have a new Samsung 8000 Class 3D TV using DirecTV HD receiver and an Onkyo HT-S9100THX surround sound system. My problem lies in the 3D feed to the TV through the Onkyo pass-throughs. The TV requires a direct feed from the DirecTV to watch 3D via HDMI. I have spent ALOT of money on my home theater and do not want sub-par audio to the surround sound. Can I get a HDMI splitter and get the sound and the video feed to the components and not lose any quality in the audio or 3D?

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