Remote controls are usually only for the more expensive cameras.
I can think of two cameras.
The Canon S60 has a remote as an extra cost option.
The Olympus C-770 comes with a remote control.
I think it only controls shutter and zoom.
Both camera have a full set of manual controls.
The C-770 also has a 10X optical zoom.
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I'm looking for a 5 megapixel or higher, under $400, with lots of stuff for a beginner who would like to become an enthusiast, able to be controlled by a remote control, PLEASE HELP

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