If, by 'God of the new testament' you mean Jesus, I must say the bible doesn't support you. Notice how Revelation, almost the last book to be written, introduces itself:
"A revelation by Jesus Christ, which God gave him, to show his slaves the things that must shortly take place. And he sent forth his angel and presented [it] in signs through him to his slave John"
A chain of communication and authority is given: God to Jesus to an angel to John to God's slaves, who are 'those [men like John] who have an ear to hear.' We learn from v.10 that most of the "signs" (symbolic language) show us events far in John's future. ("By inspiration I came to be in the Lord's day"). In fact, many believe that the "Lord [Jesus'] day" is this present time. In any case, it's long after Jesus' death and resurrection, and after the bible was 'cast in cement,' so any statements of Jesus show his thoughts today, in his final, exalted position 'at the right hand of God.'
One thought that directly addresses your statement is Rev 3:12 (emphasis added):
"The one that conquers-I will make him a pillar in the temple of my God, and he will by no means go out [from it] anymore, and I will write upon him the name of my God and the name of the city of my God, the new Jerusalem which descends out of heaven from my God, and that new name of mine."
You may know that this statement directly contradicts a belief held by all the mainstream churches - that Jesus is himself Jehovah. It's clear that Jesus doesn't agree.
Moreover, your view of Jesus as a 'kindly, non-violent' God is also different from the bible's, at Rev 19:11-16:
"And I saw the heaven opened, and, look! a white horse. And the one seated upon it is called Faithful and True, and he judges and carries on war in righteousness ... he is arrayed with an outer garment sprinkled with blood, and the name he is called is The Word of God ... And out of his mouth there protrudes a sharp long sword, that he may strike the nations with it, and he will shepherd them with a rod of iron. He treads too the winepress of the anger of the wrath of God the Almighty. And upon his outer garment, even upon his thigh, he has a name written, King of kings and Lord of lords."
The physical result is predictable, v.17,18:
"I saw also an angel standing in the sun, and he cried out ... to all the birds that fly in midheaven: 'Come here, be gathered together to the great evening meal of God, that YOU may eat the fleshy parts of kings and the fleshy parts of military commanders and the fleshy parts of strong men and the fleshy parts of horses and of those seated upon them, and the fleshy parts of all, of freemen as well as of slaves and of small ones and great.'"
No 'sweet babe in a manger' here. This Jesus has a grown man's faculties and the use of Jehovah's power.
Many times the bible contradicts our beliefs, which may be cherished and long-held. When that happens, we have the same two choices that Adam faced: Hold on to our beliefs, or see and do things Jehovah's way. "For the word of God is alive and exerts power ... and [is] able to discern thoughts and intentions of [the] heart. And there is not a creation that is not manifest to his sight, but all things are naked and openly exposed to the eyes of him with whom we have an accounting." (Heb 4:12,13)
You sounded quite convinced in your post. If you see things in a different light now, I have some things to show you about the proper fear and love of Jehovah, through the eyes of those who know him best- the writers of his book.
Regards, Doug in New Mexico