Your problem is trying to use XP to view large files with less than the bare minimum of RAM. At a minimum, you should have 256 meg, and better yet 512 meg. Memory is cheap and it one of the easiest upgrades to do.
I am doing a lot of video editing of home movies on my PC. These files sizes range from about a gig to up to 8 gig. I am using Windows Movie Maker v5.1 (service pack 2) to take this from my camcorder to the PC and using Windows Media Player v10 to play them once edited and saved. My process using Windows Movie Maker is to take my tapes from the camcorder and save them as a raw DV-AVI file, then edit them and re-save with the content I want to keep (also as a DV-AVI file).
I am running a DELL PC, windows XP, a gig of memory, Pentium 4 2.8 ghz and a video card with 128 meg of ram.
Here's my problem - my PC is having problems sometimes opening the video files I have created. When I boot up, I can open a file without issue. After one or more files has been opened/viewed, sometimes I have a problem when I double click to open another video file. The window that I am using to view all my files freezes and I get a message that the window is no longer responding. I am then unable to open any more of these files until I re-boot. I am still able to open other windows and launch other applications. This seems to be a problem realated to either WMP or WMM or both? This is causing me a lot of problems.
Please Advise!!!

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