Just last week at the office we did a reload so I was able to re-verify the XP will have big WiFi issues. I hope you are true in your posts about "XP" and not XP SP3."
As to the card vanishing, did you see if the USB CARD works in other machines?
Bob
I have two problem installing my wireless card onto my XP system desktop.
The second problem I'm having with my wireless card is that my Abit Air Pace wireless card is not being read by the device manager. It's disappeared altogether.
Now I can't even try the driver updater to locate the drivers that I'd downloaded earlier. That was the first problem.
Not sure if this is intelligible to anyone, but I've been at it for hours and I give up. I could really use the help.
Thank you.

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