if the system is "finishing up" with the drive. Have you waited? Restarting verifies this, as a restart forces XP to finish. Give it a little longer. Wait a good minute just for grins. Let us know what happens.
Most of the time when trying to eject a disc, the rom won't open for disc removel. I have to restart the PC in order to get it to open. It just started happening. I am running XP Pro. I am not very technical.

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