Pillow fights with hubby...
Equal distribution of "GOOD(s)" for the benefit of free speech called "LOVE(s)".
Say, do you prefer Japanese Futon or American Goose Down?
This egotist has a face relatively unscathed by his years.
Why? It ain't from clean living, nor am I Dorian Grey.
It owes purely and simly i think, to eschewing the pillow for most of my adult life.
Our tissues are affected by factors other than mere aging.
Tugs and stretches and cramps and clamps have long been applied by various cultures to deliberately deform human features:
the obsolete Chinese practice of foot-binding.
the Ubangi's practice of lip plates
and various others.
How is the pillow a similar but inadvertant mechanism for facial distortion?
Anyone who has awoke in the AM after time with side of face mashed into the pillow, or face mashed flat into a pillow is met at the mirror with a disconcerting, somewhat temporary sight.
When i was eighteen and enlisted in the Navy, i found myself confronted with a choice: throw away my pillow aboard the USS Orion, or give it about 25% of my worldly space for stowage of personal gear during waking hours.
See, all of our bedding except for the thin and narrow ticked foam mattress was required to be stowed inside our "racks"; our tiered bunks, wiht hinged lids that covered an eight or ten inch depth wherin all uniforms and civies and sheeting and =pillow= were required to be stowed.
Try this test: lay on your bed without a pillow for your head. Turn on your side. There will be little comfort but note there is -no- mashing or stretching of your ear or facial features.
Years later in civvy life again I met a young classical pianist whom i would've guessed was eighteen. He was instead, turning age 30 during that week of a piano competition in 1980.
I marveled at his perfect features (he a straight guy and me not shamed to compliment either sex for good looks).
He said "don't sleep on a pillow. That is my 'secret'".
So, for all these years since I have vainly avoided the comfort of a pillow.
Aided in this spartan sleeping life by my bad back, which generally mandates sleeping in a swivel chair to avoid immobility when awakening a few hours later.
In a swivel chair, or even in a bed my lousey back has more or less trained me to keep my face away from pressure, pillow or not.
Sort of a strange post, but true and perhaps this notion has never come to your attention before?
How we look as we age should carry no weight. Character marks come with experience and make us look more qualified as the elders we do become.
I mention this pillow thing only as an abstract concept which is fully borne out as verity by my own personal experience with it. Aside from my face I still have all the ususal characteristics of my age in regards to aging skin and joints, etc. But lucky me, i have no other real problems. I suspect these other shoes will drop presently, for Nature does not care to honor our age-related wisdom with preservation of youthful attributes.
Health preservation of -real- sort comes only by good luck, careful choice of parents, and making the most lemonade from our lemon tree of chronic susceptibilities, or lack thereof.
And avoidance of useless hormonal stress- the adrenaline reaction without outless, is perhaps the greatest predictor of future ill health.
As passionately cantankerous as I appear on SE i am not actually in a rage, ever. More like in a sporting mood. It was not always this way for me here, but it is now.
So there- a real word to the ones who would be wise. Don't "hate" yourselves into a state of chronic indigestion or bad health over the likes of me. I sure don't harm myself over you. And nowadays, in my newly balanced self, I would not wish anyone here any -real harm- ever.
Not from without, and not from within.