Here's two folk seem to like.
http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E16835103099
http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E16835103065
Read the reviews see if it fits your needs.
I've read a lot of reviews that say this processor gets hot. I won't be overclocking, and it'll be going into a not very crowded medium tower with five fans spread out over the top, front and rear of the box.
Help me out here, do I need an aftermarket cooler? if so, I need good recommendations.
Yeah, I'll be gaming, so that is a factor.
Thanks
http://m.newegg.com/Product/index?itemnumber=N82E16819113359
for reference, here are the other parts of the upgrade:
http://m.newegg.com/Product?itemNumber=N82E16813130853&Keyword=msi%20a78m-e45%20v2
http://m.newegg.com/Product/index?itemnumber=14-500-362
http://m.newegg.com/Product/index?itemnumber=27-135-247

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