I just bought a 256mb ram stick for a Graphite Clamshell from www.ramdirect.com. They had the easiest site for determining model suitability; bought it, and was delivered in two days, well padded and boxed. Had a question for them later and received a well reasoned email from them the same day. They're bookmarked here for any later purchases. Good luck.
any suggestions?

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