While I did read your post, I don't have a great idea of what's going on. Pics could help, or even something like google sketch.
Bass waves like having space. The low freq's have extremely long wave lengths.
If you have the space, and are willing to build one, you could do a false wall, that would give you may or may not give you multiple benefits, however this is something that is particularly beneficial with a front projection system.
but in your case, you could put your speakers behind it as well. The difference with a false wall is that its acoustically transparent.
Now, if you can't trust your kids to tear the fabric up, well I don't know what to say.
I just purchased a Cambridge Soundworks P300HD subwoofer to use in my basement which I am finishing. As I am framing out walls, I have created space behind one of the walls by the electrical box. I am putting a door there for access to the area so I left plenty of space in case I need to get back there in the future. The space to the right of the electrical box behind the wall is about 3 feet wide x 4 feet long x 8 feet high to the ceiling. I was thing of putting the sub there with large access panels to let the bass flow out of the wall. This space is about 4 or 5 feet directly to the left of where the TV will be located and the chairs will be in front of the TV about 8 feet back. My guess is the chairs will be about 10 feet from the sub. I can frame inside the wall around the sub to try and force the bass to flow out through the access panels and not through out the open space behind the wall.
So, I am interested in peoples opinions on putting a floor standing sub behind the wall. Has anyone ever tried it or read an article on it?
The reason for doing it is that I have small children and don't really want the sub out in the open for them to climb on. I considered an in wall sub but they are just too expensive (~$1700 for a good one with an amp versus $500 for the one I got).

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