disable all start up programs. Go to sign in screen but don't sign in. click connection settings and follow directions as you proceed. Sometimes just changing the connection phone # is all it needs
I use Zone Alarms and I think this might be causing the problem even though I have disabled the IM option.I'd really appriciate any help.

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