It's been 2 months now but as luck had it at the office we got to install XP (original) and refresh our memory about this area.
Paragraph 1 is critical along with getting the machine to SP3.
Since you don't know how to update the driver, that's the problem right there. The stock driver on the machine we had would not support WPA2 so we had to go to the laptop maker's web site and find it there.
-> You bring up a good point. With today's users is it time to forget XP? Most of them are upset over issues like this and demand support that doesn't exist. Some of them want a fix it all driver finder app and we know there are none.
Maybe XP's time has come?
Bob
I've been searching in the web & found that
1." Please check to see whether your wireless card needs a driver update from the wireless manufacturer." But I don't know how to check if the wireless card needs a driver update.
2. "There are things that can go wrong during the SP3 updater process that lead to subsequent wireless connection problems. The most frequently seen problem of this nature is if a Norton product is on the PC while the SP3 updater was running. This leads to a conflict producing many unnecessary registry keys. See http://support.microsoft.com/kb/953979 for a fix procedure."
I don't have any Norton product.
3." Check to see whether the wireless card is under the control of Windows, or under the control of an application that was supplied with the card's software. You might have to turn off any such application to enable Windows to gain full control of the card."
I don't know how to check if the wireless card is under the control of Windows or under the control of an application. I don't know how to turn of any such application.
I would be very pleased, if someone could help me 
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