First, the "gold bar" only shows up on Windows XP SP2...Which operating system are you using? Have you enabled ActiveX in your Internet Explorer security settings? If not, please do so. It will be required for installing the ActiveX control for the Flash Player.

If you're using "Netscape, Mozilla, Opera, and CompuServe" the installer file from the link below to your desktop, the run it:

Macromedia Flash Player Download Center Windows

If you're using Internet should be able to install it from their normal website below by enabling the correct ActiveX settings in Internet Explorer.

Macromedia Flash Player Download Center Windows Internet Explorer Version

If that still doesn't get it done, here is a manual download location at a third party site.:

Shockwave Flash Player 7

Hope this helps.