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How To Mend A Broken Heart :(

by 2143436756292931057199946 / January 18, 2007 8:53 PM PST

(Not techie news, but wanted to share with ya'll because we all look out for each other...)

After a 2-year relationship... it's over. Sad To say it nicely, it ended because so-and-so found other guy(s) to love instead of loving me. Sad

So how does one mend a broken heart?

Last time, I ran up a $4,500 credit card bill... so the shopping thing is out of the question. Although, it got me some nice furniture and my first Apple Computer.

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Music Heals The Heart
by 2143436756292931057199946 / January 18, 2007 9:18 PM PST

...and if you happen to know any good music on iTunes to make someone feel better about situations as these, please recommend and post.

(Right click on a song in the iTunes Music Store, select "Copy iTunes Store URL", then post in the thread. When I or someone clicks on the link, it'll open directly to the song of the URL you copied for me and everyone else to sample and purchase if we like.)

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(NT) how 'bout a road trip....
by shawnlin / January 18, 2007 10:39 PM PST
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(NT) match.com?
by christianboy65 / January 18, 2007 10:56 PM PST
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Time is the only thing that works for me
by papachungo13 / January 18, 2007 11:10 PM PST

That and an attempt at having a positive attitude and trying not to get upset at things that reminded me of the relationship.

Hang in there.

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In The Same Boat...here's what I'm doing
by cyndymcc / January 19, 2007 12:22 AM PST

1. Stay BUSY!! Whenever your mind wanders to "it", get your tail moving. To the gym, a movie, BOL show notes, whatever isn't related to love or your ex.

2. Shake it up - change your daily routine so reminders of the ex don't keep zinging your mending heart (e.g., "awww...it's 4:20pm, time for our daily Latte break...")

3. Box up every CD and DVD that reminds you of your former couplehood. It'll all be there in a few years and you'll have the added pleasure of rediscovering them.

4. Get vain - take extra care of yourself (health, clothes, hair etc) Nothing feels better than looking GREAT when you run into them 3 months down the road...and nothing feels worse than running into them when you look like death on a cracker.

Sorry you're hurting, it really stinks, huh? Time is the major bit*h of the thing, because you can't do anything about it. Take heart, you will be ok. And it'll hurt a little less every week as long as you don't let yourself wallow.

Cyndy

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I am feeling you pain
by kellenjb / January 19, 2007 12:32 AM PST

After almost 4 years my relationship ended this last weekend. I would have to say the only cure is time, everything else just fills in the gaps until time can run its course.

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video games

I play video games when I want to not think about being sad. Maybe it's not too healthy, but it gave me enough numb time to deal. Well, that's what I did when James passed away, but I think I would probably do the same type of thing in a breakup.

Then just spend time with other people you care about. I'm sorry you're having a tough time, it'll get better, I promise!

V

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Chainsawing and Curbstomping become therapeutic...
by robstak / January 19, 2007 9:08 AM PST
In reply to: video games

Get out that aggression or get back via a safe outlet like mericlessly p0wning a n00b. totally works for me. Thanks xbox!

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What I did
by udayan71 / January 19, 2007 2:11 AM PST

Spent literally months out every night so distracted with friends.
Did the vain thing, it's fun - but hard to shed. I am gorgeous.

I won't give advice because what works for me may not for you, perhaps lying in bed and being depleted works for you. Didn't for me.

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Yep
by gogomama / January 19, 2007 9:13 AM PST
In reply to: What I did

Going out often with friends is the best. If you're like many of us you probably go so caught up in your relationship that friends didn't get as much attention as they did before. You'll find it's fun to get back together with the gang and raise hell.

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4 key steps
by gables1 / August 20, 2009 2:03 PM PDT

I have laid out 4 things in my eHow article that helped me out. I think you'll like it

<a href="http://www.ehow.com/how_5321698_mend-broken-hearts.html">Mend Broken Hearts</a>

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....
by gables1 / August 20, 2009 2:05 PM PDT
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Good tips
by Slikkster / August 20, 2009 8:41 PM PDT
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I would add that at some point --and this is not easy to do-- it would be wise to figure out if there was was something about your own behavior that eventually led to this outcome. It might have been just imcompatibility, but if the same thing keeps happening to you, something's probably up. Either you have some things to explore and possibly change, or you're attracted to the wrong kinds of people.

Of course, it goes without saying that the person who does the breaking up usually fares much better than the one on the receiving end. If you see you're heading down a path with no good outcome --even if you still have feelings for that person-- being the initiator of the breakup at least gives you a sense of empowerment over rejection. That's easy to say, of course, and much harder to do.

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who digs these posts up!?!? lol.
by robstak / August 21, 2009 2:58 AM PDT

you know who you are, people! srsly do ppl go back 2, 3 etc years thru this forum????? yikes!

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Google indexes all the threads
by Nicholas Buenk / August 21, 2009 3:18 AM PDT

I figure this is how they keep showing up...

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(NT) ppl google: cnet + my girlfriend broke up with me ? lol
by robstak / August 22, 2009 2:22 AM PDT
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It keeps you honest...
by Slikkster / August 21, 2009 3:35 AM PDT

Just like Obama's archived enemies list! (joking)

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you should bump your first post!
by robstak / August 22, 2009 2:21 AM PDT
In reply to: It keeps you honest...

lol ill try and find mine!

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(NT) haha awesome! thanks!! :)
by robstak / August 24, 2009 4:35 AM PDT
In reply to: Found yours.

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