First off, I'm going to flatly state that EMAIL for the most part is passed about in PLAIN TEXT over the internet and if you tap into the right places, you can in fact read other people's email.
Worse, SMTP and POP3 in most implementations use a non-secure method to supply the name and password of the user's account. If you want to have secure communications, you have to encrypt some attachment. Got it?
"Is this software that must be loaded to my computer and if so can that be detected? Is this something that can be done remotely? Anyone with info on this would greatly be appreciated."
How deep down this rabbit hole do we want to go? At the office, I demonstrated this issue with the use of a nice software suite called NeoBoy (a collection of tcp/ip packet sniffers.) "IT Boss" Willy Sherman was shocked at what one could see on the network. We could watch what web sites were being browsed from what workstation, capture an email transmission and more.
A fine equivilent is noted on most cable modem "neighborhoods."
In closing, most internet applications do not use a secure transmission method. For some, this is a rude shock.
Bob
Boy, I sure do hope someone has the answer. I get spam e-mail all the time saying that I can have the ability to steal anyones passwords and read their e-mail. I was just wondering how that works because I am just afraid of someone being able to do that to me without my knowledge. Is this software that must be loaded to my computer and if so can that be detected? Is this something that can be done remotely? Anyone with info on this would greatly be appreciated..*S*. Joyce.

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