It would help us help you if you-
1) Asked specific questions
2) Provided a lot more specifics regarding all makes/models and your specific setup. Otherwise, we can only guess at precisely how it all is set up in your home.
I have directv all through my house and have 2 zones with surround sound. On the 2nd zone I have 2 speakers that are suppose to sync with the tv on my porch. It has gotten to the point where I can not even turn on the tv with the directv remote or the independent tv remote. I can turn on the receiver where I can listen to music on the second zone. My next step is to call the guys who installed the surround sound.

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