Good Ping, Bad Connection.

I've been really trying to figure out the problem for awhile now. Specifically one friend that lives literally five minutes from me with the exact same internet plan (which is the highest available here being 75mbps) and nobody else using up the internet, but somehow we can't ever play PC games together unless there are dedicated servers. So just neither of us can host cause one will lag really bad/lose connection even though it says on average we have about 20 ping at all times. We don't lag anywhere else. Just in each other's lobbies. Is there any way to correct this issue? It's really getting on my nerves. Also please explain things a little more. I don't know all computer lingo. Thank you.

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Sounds correct.

The clue here is dedicated servers. If you don't use those the game server could be anywhere and results are going to be all over the map.

What is there to fix here since dedicated servers work?

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Dedicated servers aren't a solution.

We are trying to play private matches. Something where he or I am the host, so that's where the server would be. It's literally only this one friend. Any other friends I host for have no problems on the same games connecting to me or vice versa.

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To play a private match.

Now I don't know specifically about the game in question as I can't find it mentioned but for most games you have to set up a server at your place or over there, configure it to be accessible to the Internet and then both join there. To write dedicated servers are not a solution sounds as if some folk are new to this.

I'm just someone that wrote router code in the 90s.

Today for many setups we have to move the PC into the DMZ to get around issues with routing. And just today I worked an issue with Avast blocking game play. in the end both players had to uninstall and use the native Windows Firewall. It worked fine. One of them whined about it and my answer is call Avast to work it out since it was solved.

Post was last edited on January 1, 2018 8:28 AM PST

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To Clarify...

Alright so what you're saying is to put my PC in the DMZ and that may (or may not) solve my issue? I also didn't specify the game because it's all games. Him and I just have this poor connection somehow just to one another and neither of us can figure out why or what the exactly the problem is. I appreciate the help though. Any other suggestions?

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Gamers carry on and on about ping time, server response time and the only way to fix it is to host your own server. Some of the newer gamers don't understand why this is the fix. I can't write at length why.

As to what I noted, you have to try it. Some folk won't and they are stuck for a very long time.

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Everything goes through a server between you two

It's not directly across neighborhood lines only between you and him. There's always one or more servers between you, passing the info back and forth. You can use tracert to check the path.

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Never knew...

Huh, that makes sense, but how exactly would I use tracert to solve my issue? I know we could at least see where the connection is going, but is there a way to reroute it or something? I'm sorry, this is new to me and I never heard of tracert until now. Sounds like I might be able to at least pinpoint the problem (if that is indeed the issue) at least.

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Other than DNS and/or VPN

I don't know of a way to make the route shorter or more direct. If you both used the same DNS server and one that was physically closest to the both of you, maybe it would speed things up. The other is to use a VPN setup through a physically closer server, preferably that also is a DNS server. However VPN has a tendency to slow things down since it's encrypted setup, requiring more bandwidth used. It's not like dialup networking was when you could know where a server was located and dial up the nearest one.

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