your wife's mail has not be "customized" to include those things that you have in yours.
<span id="INSERTION_MARKER"> We have Mac OS 10.5.8<span id="INSERTION_MARKER">
<span id="INSERTION_MARKER">I am the "administrator" on our computer; my wife has her own page.
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Her mail program does not resemble mine. I have "buttons" at the top like New Message and Get Mail. She does not. She has to select them from a drop-down menu. I can find nothing in her mail preferences to make her mail look like mine.

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