I doubt there's a way to do that. After playing around a little, on my PC the cursor always shows up at the same place where it was when I click "delete", and usually I have to scoot it over to get on the "Yes" button in the confirmation dialog box.
Don't know what program you're using, but I do have some apps that do position the cursor over the "No" button. I'll bet that's a precaution against accidental deletion.
When I delete something I get question "Are you sure you want to delete" YES or NO. The cursor always points to NO and have to move it to YES. How can I have the cursor always come up pointing to YES????

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