Hi Netsky, But then again in the bible ,they use the phrase "puffed up". I personally would prefer the word pride or proud. But I guess it is a personal thing. Much of it depends on your native language or what is pleasing to the ear,
I should abandon that freudian word, ego i so often cast about.
Call it self, instead.
Self, pride, dignity. How do these relate?
My long thought on this, having recently discarded the non-essentials of pride and dignity, is expressed in short form here.
Challenge this by logic and reason if you care to try:
the you that must survive.
the you that thinks all or nothing much
the you that creates rationales
the you that builds things
the you that tears things
the you that nutures things
the you that kills things
the protective wrap that sheilds your self from public view
the wrap that protects your self from attacks
the wrap of uniform that gives you protection by confomity
the wrap of gilt of excessive dignity, indignant dignity,,, is a form of...
is the projection of self OVER other peoples differnt or lesser
is the projection of personal attainments OUSIDE of the the wrap of dignity. IE: i am so proud of my Children.
About pride: IMO the most over-used word in the lexicon. We almost all cheapen the word by too-free usage. "Proud of my Country's traditions, etc, is NOT offensive, esp. in speaking to Countrymen.
But imo! to say "I'm so proud to be elected to serve as Mayor of this great city", etc. is just a sadly bad use. "I'm a proud Democrat". Even worse! SO freakin' what... you registered to vote? What did YOU do to make the Democratic institutions of that Party?
Even if you founded a great political party, what GOOD does it do to proclaim SElF is PROUD of such or any personal achievement?
I separate that sentence because it is key to this philosophical argument.
I look at the Founders and at people living a century or more ago. RARELY is the word 'Proud' to be found in speech or in writing.
And today, in this era of EXTREME national polarization and huge, common excess of personal wealths far beyond needs for dignified living, it seems that every other word out of EVERY middle and upper class person is a word about personal pride!
"My son is a doctor- we are so proud of that"
(auditors may have no son, or son deceased, or son a failure, and so FEELS DIMINISHED by careless use of proud)
The sensitive reader will say "netsky makes a minorly good point" and perhaps -think twice- about saying "proud" so loosely as did Kerry, Edwards, and Bush and Cheney do.
The truely PROUD readers, though, will say "netsky you are an asx as usual"
And we shall hear some very Imperious words of derision to this essay.
These salvos from Herd-Thinkers will give this writer some quiet satisfaction. Not pride that he pricked them, for i have no pride.
But for every USE of the word, "pride" there is a much better, more Christain and humane crop of alternative words that do no harm:
"it pleases me so.."
"it is a great solace."
"we are so honored by.."
"it is a grace.."
i am small and i cannot, shall not change any heart.
if there is even ONE less un-necessary utterance of the Pee word, because just one person read this and thought twice about the -possible- subconscious harm that word TENDS to do to other-lessers... then that is a Good.
The alternate words? There must be many others too! And i gu-ar-an-tee you, using any of the alternates in place of proud, elevate the user in the mind of the listener whether they realize this or not.
The speaker will be thought, automatically, as unusually gracious-speaking. The listener will not know -quite why-, but that WILL be the effect.
uncommon sense tells me so