Do not use the software that comes with the camera or the disc. I have the same problem with my DVD camcorder. I know how you feel. I just got Sony Vegas software. The thing you need to know to get in the software is 1) Ability to import DVD discs and 2) an mpeg(1-2)codec. Look for software that says specifically "For DVD camcorders". This will help.
I just recently received a Cannon DC10 DVD recorder. It works great, and is easy to use. The problem I have is that the software that comes with the camera (Cannon utilities), nor, the software that came with the DVD RW do not seem to allow you to load the movies on to the hard drive and then select scenes to be edited, etc, individually. I'd also like to take part of a clip and have the ability to upload it to the internet or send it as an attachment in an email.
Is there some type of software that will enable me to do this?
By the way, I'm a newbe at this, so any guidance is welcome.
Thanks.

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