I can see why you might be having problems.
Why the HDD? Much of what you want can be provided
by the Canon VIXIA HF S21. It has a headphone jack. It also has a meter on the LCD that is a digital VUE meter.
I am looking for an SD camera that can produce dvd quality (for training videos). We don't want to film in widescreen - thus the necessity for SD.
We use an external mic and need to be able to plug in headphones to check noise levels in real time.
We are currently using a JVC HD camera and would like to avoid .TOD files as well.
I am having a very difficult time trying to locate a camera that can do all this, or can be outfitted to do so. Can anyone point me in the right direction?
Thanks in advance!!

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