and I think it is imprtant to bring kids up to survive and act with morality in the world in which they live, not the world that applied to their parents or grandparents.
As regards the porno spam, it displays pudenda and various sexual practices that I'm not happy to see in my inbox.
There's a reality here that seems to get lost. We are human beings, not avatars of God. The Old Testament shows Yahweh changing his mind pretty frequently, and the New Testament is a major change of opinion. It is unreaqsonable to expect a person to be totally consistent in their actions nor opinions. Actually, that was my University thesis in psychology: there is no such thing as a personality, only expectations.
The line changes person by person, situation by situation. The only hard and fast rule I know is keep your word to the ones you love, protect them to the best of your ability, and be honest where honesty will not cause damage.
A major thesis in literature is the lord of the manor who's word is inviolate. Its a cultural lie. Every lord of the manor said to his peersa what was necessary to keep his manor.
To Susie and I, fidelity is the ONLY thing required of our marriage, both coming from broken marriages where the partner enjoyed infidelities. My brother on Christmas Day explained to Susie that she would go to hell, because leaving her husband and moving in with me and eventually marrying me and having children by me made her an adulterer and thus she would go to hell, whereas John, the lay preacher who wouldn't get off his but to save a kid being run over, too much effort, will go to heaven because his and his wife's string of sexual encounters are forgiven as they went through a second immersion when in their twenties.
Sorry, but the Christian religious dogma just goes right up my nose.
Ian