Saw this on the net:
No, but seriously. GAIM has some pretty nifty provisions for that kind
of stuff (a system tray icon plugin, transparency, etc.), and I use it
at home for Yahoo! and MSN (don't have any jabber accounts but the one
at the office). I think GAIM is just what you need. Download's a bit
bulky though.

gaim.sourceforge.net if you're interested.

I use exodus and it seems to be ok. I am going to try GAIM out.