here:
http://windowssecrets.com/2008/08/14/03-Youll-get-a-new-Windows-Update-like-it-or-not
and see IF it helps.
I inadvertently downloaded SP3, but I don't want to install it because of all the problems I've read with its installation; so, how do I delete the downloaded file? Where is it on my hardrive? Also, ever since it's been "sitting" downloaded but not installed, I haven't gotten any new notifications of any more recent XP updates. (I have it set to ask me if I wish to download new updates)

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