Lisa,
you ONLY have to save the new update file into your Grisoft > AVG > Update folder. If you saved the file somewhere on your computer - copy it and then paste it into Grisoft > AVG > Update folder. After that - open AVG and let the new update install itself.
since i cant get the automatic update to work either- i downloaded and saved the update manually- double click to run it and get the open with program box- thats where i get lost- or am i supposed to not double click and just right click and choose save? im lost

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