I look forward to keeping track of this thread, and the feedback that people offer.
Further to my ?PC Share Manager - feature request? thread, I have since discovered that there is a new DLNA server available called Serviio. It?s free to download from http://www.serviio.org/.
I installed it last night and it takes care of much of my wish list. What I liked about Serviio is that it?s much faster than PC Share Manager, it builds the media library in the background, and it automatically updates the media library when files are added or removed from the folders.
I recommend that others here give it a try, and provide feedback both here and to Serviio.