This sounds like an expensive expedition. While I do electronics designs, firmware and software for CCTV systems what you asked for is not in the consumer products or such prices.
If you want to explore WIRELESS LANC CONTROLS that's a partial solution. I think this is why most will use simpler on/off controls.
I have not had a camcorder in many years having been satisfied with short video clips from a "point and shoot".
I am not in the market to upgrade and most of the sales people in "big box" retailers I have visited have little knowledge of specific brands, models and features.
I want to remotely shoot wild life photos and videos
One of my major criteria is that I would like to have a wireless remote control that would allow me shoot both videos under fairly low light conditions and ideally remotely switch back and forth to flash still pictures.
I am not concerned with telephoto but want a good wide angle lens. I would also like a LCD view finder that can be turned in same direction lens is pointing for filming myself as narrator
I know that some of the older Canon Models were offered with wireless remotes but have not run across any current models that still offer that option.
Any suggestions as to models I should investigate and threads I should read to educate myself on what is available would be appreciated